Combat Burnout - Understanding the Stages and Strategies to Cooldown
Burnout doesn’t always announce itself. Sometimes, it creeps in quietly, disguised as fatigue, lack of motivation, or that invisible weight on your shoulders. One day you’re on fire, knocking out projects and chasing goals. The next, you can’t even look at your screen without feeling drained.
As writers, burnout hits differently. It’s not just about physical exhaustion, it’s emotional, mental, and creative. The words stop flowing. Deadlines feel heavier. Even the stories you were excited about start to feel… hollow.
I’ve been there. And if you’re there now, I want you to know something upfront: burnout doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you’ve been trying too hard, for too long, without the rest or balance you deserve.
In this post, we’re going to talk about what burnout really looks like, broken down into 12 recognizable stages. Then we’ll dive into 5 real strategies that can help you cool down, recover, and reconnect with your passion for writing.
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The 12 Stages of Burnout (And What They Really Feel Like)
Burnout doesn’t just show up one day out of nowhere. It builds over time, stage by stage, until your mind, body, and creativity are completely worn down. If you’ve been feeling off but can’t quite explain why, these stages might help you pinpoint what’s going on.
Here’s what burnout often looks like for writers and creatives:
1. Unresolved Stress
You’ve got too much on your plate, but instead of dealing with it, you tell yourself to just push through. Maybe you even wear the stress like a badge of honor. But all it does is sit in the background, building tension.
2. Excessive Drive and Passion
You’re in the zone, obsessed, even. You’re writing nonstop, barely coming up for air. It feels good… until it doesn’t. That fire can turn into a burnout blaze if you don’t give yourself breathing room.
3. Overworking to Prove Yourself
You start taking on more than you should, trying to prove your worth. Every little task becomes a test. You push harder, ignoring how exhausted you feel, thinking you just need to work “a little more” to catch up.
4. Neglecting Your Own Needs
Meals get skipped. Sleep becomes optional. Water? Who needs it. You’re so focused on the work that basic self-care starts to feel like a luxury you can’t afford.
5. Blaming Others (or Everything Else)
You’re frustrated, snappy, and tired, but instead of slowing down, you start blaming your environment, your clients, even the story itself. The truth is: you’re running on empty and don’t know how to say it.
6. Losing Track of Time
Deadlines blur. Days bleed together. You work at odd hours and lose the ability to unplug. It feels like you’re always “on,” and yet nothing really gets done.
7. Denial That Anything’s Wrong
You keep telling yourself: “I’m fine.” But deep down, you’re not. You’re irritable. Tired. Disconnected from the work you used to love. You just don’t want to admit it yet.
8. Pulling Away from People
You stop texting back. Cancel plans. Even online conversations feel exhausting. You begin to isolate, not out of choice, but because it feels like too much to show up for anyone, including yourself.
9. Your Behavior Starts to Shift
You might snap at people. Or procrastinate more than usual. Maybe you binge something, pick fights, or zone out in a way that doesn’t feel like rest. This stage is messy and confusing, and it’s a red flag.
10. Self-Care? What’s That?
Things that used to bring you comfort, like going for walks, reading, or taking care of yourself, feel pointless or burdensome. You’re too tired to even help yourself.
11. Impulsive Reactions
Instead of thoughtful decisions, you react on impulse. Maybe it’s quitting a project abruptly or diving into something new to escape. It’s not rooted in clarity, it’s a cry for relief.
12. Emotional Collapse / Depression
This is the breaking point. You feel numb. Sad. Disconnected. Maybe even hopeless. It’s no longer just burnout, it’s affecting your mental health, and it’s time to ask for help.
5 Strategies That Helped Me Combat Burnout
1. Adjust Your Perspective
Sometimes burnout sneaks in because every project starts to feel like the same old grind. You open the doc, stare at the blinking cursor, and it’s just… another task to check off. But the shift for me came when I started asking:
What makes this project different?
Why does this story matter to me?
Instead of approaching everything like a deadline, I started treating it like a conversation, with myself, with the reader, or with something I was trying to understand. That shift helped me reconnect to the “why,” not just the “what.”
There are times I get excited about a story, especially one with a big concept, only to feel stuck when it starts to feel repetitive. That usually happens when I’m rewriting the same chapter over and over. Eventually, it becomes tedious. The joy fades. The story starts to feel like a chore instead of something I care about.
That’s what happened with my upcoming novel 8-Bit. It’s a big story, 28 chapters so far, and every single one needs to feel different. They each have to serve as a mini arc to move the larger story forward. So I broke the process down: one chapter per day, no looking back until I’m done. That small shift in thinking made a huge difference.
What also helped? Remembering why I wanted to write 8-Bit in the first place. It combines two of my favorite subjects: retro gaming and true crime. It also speaks to cultural conversations I think more people should be having. That’s what keeps me grounded. That’s what keeps it fresh.
When I focus on what makes each chapter different, I’m less likely to feel burned out. I stop chasing perfection and start chasing meaning. That’s where momentum lives.
2. Talk to Someone Who Actually Listens
When burnout hits, isolation makes it worse. I’ve learned the hard way that trying to carry it alone only drags it out longer.
Whether it’s a friend, a fellow writer, a partner, or even someone online you trust, it matters to have one person who’ll actually listen. Not try to fix you. Just hear you out. Saying things out loud, even if they’re messy, lifts some of the weight.
If nothing else, you realize you’re not broken, you’re just tired.
I’m lucky to have a best friend I can talk to regularly about writing, burnout, or life in general. Even if we don’t dive deep every time, just having that space to talk helps me reset. Sometimes, you don’t need a solution. You just need someone to listen.
Another turning point for me was attending a writing workshop. For the first time in a long time, I didn’t feel like I was creating in a vacuum. Everyone in the room had their own goals, their own struggles, their own passions. And suddenly I wasn’t alone. Talking about what we were working on lit a spark in me. It reminded me that this thing we do, this writing life, it’s shared. It’s real.
But I’ve also learned there’s a balance. Dumping everything on one person can backfire if it becomes too one-sided. That’s where therapists come in, people who are trained to help us unpack the heavy stuff. I’ve had moments where professional help made all the difference. Don’t be afraid to go there. Your mental health is just as important as your creative output.
3. Move Your Body, Feed Your Brain
This one’s a game-changer. And yeah, I used to roll my eyes at it too.
But when I started exercising regularly, even just long walks or short weightlifting sessions, I noticed my focus coming back. My mood stabilized. My sleep improved. I wasn’t cured, but I was clearer.
Pair that with cutting back on sugar and actually eating food that fuels me? Big difference. Your brain needs fuel, and your body isn’t just a taxi for your ideas, it’s part of the process.
There are days, still to this day, when I wake up angry or foggy for no clear reason. Those are usually the days I don’t want to write. I don’t feel like doing anything creative. But if I make it to the gym and get a proper workout in, everything shifts. My mind clears. My energy returns. I go home, sit down, and suddenly the words start flowing again.
Same goes for my diet. Over the past few years, I’ve cut way back on snacks and sweets. I still enjoy them, but now I treat them as rewards, not habits. I’ll allow myself something indulgent maybe every 2–3 weeks, but only after I’ve hit a milestone. Not only does it help my focus, but I’ve noticed it also boosts my mood and self-confidence.
Taking care of my body helped me take care of my writing. I’m not perfect with it, but when I stay consistent, burnout loses its grip.
If you want to read more on this, there’s a great article by Healthline that breaks it down clearly. Check it out here.
4. Know Your Triggers
We all have them, those little patterns that drag us closer to burnout. For me, it’s perfectionism and saying yes to too much. For someone else, it might be procrastination, overcommitment, or comparing themselves to others online.
Burnout didn’t just “happen.” It built up around those habits.
Once I saw those patterns clearly, I could interrupt them. Now, when I catch myself obsessing over one line or taking on five things at once, I pause. I breathe. I step back and ask, “Is this helping me or draining me?”
Knowing your triggers is half the battle. Responding to them with intention is the rest.
For the longest time, I couldn’t figure out why I struggled to finish my stories. I’d start a screenplay or short story, hit a strong groove, then stop. Not because I didn’t know what happened next, but because I’d go back and obsess over what I’d already written.
I’d fall into this loop: reread, rewrite, get stuck. The scene I wanted to write, the one that excited me, just stayed trapped in my head. In limbo.
Eventually, I realized what was happening. I was triggering my own burnout by editing too early. Now, when I catch myself doing it, I pause. I breathe. I remind myself that no first draft needs to be perfect. If I don’t finish the draft, I won’t even get to revise it.
It took time to break that habit. But once I stopped interrupting the creative flow with constant self-editing, I started completing more of what I started, and enjoying it again.
5. Reevaluate What Actually Matters
This one came after a hard lesson. I once worked on a project just because someone promised it would “open doors.” I didn’t care about the topic. I wasn’t passionate about the message. But I said yes… and burned out fast.
That taught me something: If you keep saying yes to things that drain you, you’ll never have space for the things that light you up.
Now, before I take on anything, I ask:
Does this align with what I care about?
Will I still want to finish this when it gets hard?
Am I doing this out of passion or pressure?
Saying no is hard. But saying yes to the wrong things is harder in the long run. Your energy is finite. Spend it on what matters to you.
A few years ago, I met someone who said he was “deep in the film industry.” He talked a big game, had connections, knew producers, the whole bit. He offered me a shot: write a script for him, no upfront payment, but if it sold, we’d split the profit 50/50.
I took the deal.
Why? Because I wanted in. I wanted my work to mean something. I saw it as an opportunity… maybe the opportunity. But the project wasn’t remotely aligned with the kind of writing I care about. It was political, heavy-handed, and way outside my lane. I told myself it was temporary. That I could power through it.
I burned out fast.
Not just from the pressure, but from the disconnect. Every word felt forced. I lost sleep trying to make it perfect for someone who barely responded to my messages. And then, after I finally submitted it, he ghosted me. No thanks. No notes. No reply. Just gone.
I was angry. Mostly at myself.
But looking back, I learned something huge: burnout hits hardest when you betray your own voice. When you write for approval instead of purpose. When you chase a win that doesn’t belong to you.
That experience shook me, but it also woke me up. Since then, I’ve committed to writing the things I actually care about. Stories like Deadly Sins, 8-Bit, The Devil’s Disciple, projects that come from somewhere real. Even when the process is slow, even when I doubt myself, I stay true to what I want to say.
And that’s what saved my love for writing.
Maybe someday I’ll fictionalize that whole mess into a short story. But for now, it stands as a reminder: if it costs you your passion, it’s too expensive.
Recommended Books and Media to Combat Burnout
Books
The Cure for Burnout by Emily Ballesteros: A transformative guide that offers practical advice and insights to recognize, address, and recover from burnout by creating sustainable work-life boundaries and fostering personal well-being.
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski PhD, Amelia Nagoski DMA: A transformative guide that offers practical advice and insights to recognize, address, and recover from burnout by creating sustainable work-life boundaries and fostering personal well-being.
Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday: A compelling manual that draws on Stoicism to argue that facing our challenges head-on is the path to inner strength, perseverance, and success, turning obstacles into opportunities for growth.
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Final Thoughts
Burnout isn’t some rare, dramatic event. It happens slowly, quietly, until one day, the thing you used to love feels like it’s working against you. If you’ve made it this far, I hope this post reminded you that burnout doesn’t mean you’re weak or ungrateful. It means you’ve been giving too much of yourself without giving enough back.
I’ve burned out more times than I can count. And every time, it forced me to stop and ask:
Why am I really doing this?
Who am I writing for and am I still writing for me?
The answers weren’t always easy. But they helped me reset. They brought me back to why I started writing in the first place.
If you’re feeling stuck or drained, give yourself permission to slow down. Take breaks. Say no. Move your body. Revisit the stories that lit a fire in you years ago. And when you’re ready, return to the page without guilt.
Burnout may be part of the journey, but it doesn’t have to be the end.
Write for yourself first. Write with purpose, not pressure.
And above all, write like your words still matter.
Because they do.
And so do you.
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